Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Date Night

The hubby and I don't fight too often. Now we argue all the time (there is a difference), but we don't get into the knock down drag outs too often. Unfortunately, last Thursday we had a biggie. Don't get me wrong...I am extremely grateful for all that he does for me. I tell him thank you on a regular basis for allowing me to pursue my dreams of being a professional student and a housewife. I understand that he has a very demanding job. I understand that it is a 24/7 job. I understand that many others depend on him everyday. But, I get placed last on his priority list 95% of the time. Now, I'm not claiming to be the perfect wife, I'm far from it. I know many times I don't always put him first. But, after awhile of being put last day after day...it gets old. So, I'm not going to give all the details of the fight. It's between the two of us. The nice part for me though, is that the hubby knows this and admits to it. He is going to start working on it.


Our solution to this has been to establish the date night once again. We have tried this in the past, but when it was just us in the house it was kinda hard to keep up. So, I came up with a grand new plan. Starting this week, every Tuesday night is date night for us. Weird night I know, but it works for us. But each week, it is the assigned person's responsibility to pick where we eat and what we do. Each will be responsible for two dates a month. Easy enough, right?


Being the nice wife I am, I decided that this being the first week, he gets to decide date night. That way, he can start to redeem his self for putting me last constantly and that way I have two weeks before I have to decide. So, last week we laid down the ground rules for the game. I won't bore you with the details. But, one of them was that we are really going to stick with this. Make it a habit now before we have kids because I know it will only be harder after kids come into the picture.


Guess what? The hubby just called me (in class) to see if we can reschedule date night till tomorrow. Insert eye roll here. And we're off to a great start!


****UPDATE****
I didn't want y'all to think that he didn't come through...we did end up going out on Tuesday Night. We went to look at my house (I'm not sure if its still for sale), some Mexican, and we went and saw Role Models. Not bad picking for his first date night. So, he's not in the doghouse.

1 comment:

The Popes said...

HA! Sounds just like us! Only Andrew will often call on what would be his Friday night (but is still a work night for me) and want to go out even though I have to get up super early!
Make it a priority, because date nights are few and far between when babies are little!